It looked simple but it isn't easy.
2004, at the brink of my moments of depression was the year I embraced Don Miguel Ruiz's, "The Four Agreements"(2003). Lori Hampton, my best friend was the instrumental angel that brought me out of the darkness with this book. I had four copies and the latest I shared with a principal got lost of sharing from one head of school to another. I even remembered sharing it on the first professional monthly meeting in the in-service training in school in the last year of Dr. Sheridan G. Evangelista.
Allow me to share THE FOUR AGREEMENTS:
1. Be impeccable with your word.Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the Word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your Word in the direction of truth and love
2. Don't take anything personally.Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.
3. Don't make assumptions.Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
4. Always do your best.Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.
Realizing my type of language and considering where I work and my college language culture, the first agreement is always a daily struggle to follow. It's also difficult not to be me and it's also despicable to be me and me to like me. Thank God the writers I have produced turned out differently as I've always challenged them all to be always better than me and get farther than me. Enough about that uncanny lawless blunt me and let's ask you....?
Someday I'd agree with me and have more than four to share to all who's not pleased.
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